A 6-Week Relationship Clarity Group · San Francisco Bay Area

Should I Stay
or Should I Go?

Finding clarity when your heart is divided.

You love them — and you're exhausted. You've tried to fix it — and you're not sure it's working. You're not ready to leave, and you're not sure you can stay. This group is for you.

Reserve Your Spot

Format

6 Weekly Sessions

Location

Online · Bay Area

Group Size

6–8 Participants

Investment

$750 Total

Next Cohort

Forming Now

Is This For You?

You don't need to have
the answer. Yet.

This group is not about convincing you to stay or leave. It's about helping you get honest — with yourself — so that whatever you decide, you decide it with clarity and intention rather than exhaustion and fear.

01

You're ambivalent and tired of being ambivalent

You've been circling the same question for months — maybe years. You want to move forward, but you don't know which direction forward is.

02

Couples therapy hasn't given you the answer

You may have tried couples therapy, or your partner won't go. Either way, you need a space that's yours — to think, feel, and decide without managing someone else's reaction.

03

You want to make a choice you won't regret

Whether you stay or go, you want to know you tried to see clearly. You want to be able to say: I made this decision from my whole self, not just my fear.

04

You're carrying this mostly alone

Your friends have opinions. Your family has opinions. You need a confidential space with others who understand the weight of this particular kind of uncertainty.

05

You love your partner and you're not sure that's enough

Love is real. And love alone can't always tell you whether a relationship is worth continuing. You need more than feeling to navigate this.

06

You want to understand your patterns, not just your partner

Part of you knows this isn't just about them. This group will help you understand what you bring to the relationship — and what you truly need.

The Six Weeks

A structured journey
toward honest clarity.

Week One

Where Am I Right Now?

Mapping your ambivalence honestly. Naming what you know, what you fear, and what you've been avoiding. A compassionate starting point — no pressure to know more than you do.

Week Two

How Did We Get Here?

Understanding the arc of the relationship. What drew you together, where the disconnection began, and what patterns have kept you stuck. This isn't blame — it's seeing clearly.

Week Three

What Am I Really Longing For?

Beneath the conflict and the exhaustion is a deeper need. This session explores desire, attachment, and what it would actually mean for you to feel loved and known.

Week Four

Is This Relationship Repairable?

An honest, research-informed look at the predictors of relationship repair. What does the evidence say? What have you already tried? What would "repaired" even look like?

Week Five

Weighing the Two Futures

A grounded, values-based exploration of both paths. What does staying require? What does leaving cost? Moving beyond fear and fantasy into honest assessment.

Week Six

Your Decision Framework

Integrating everything you've discovered. Building a personal framework for moving forward — with integrity, self-compassion, and clarity. You leave knowing yourself better.

The Approach

Evidence-based.
Humanly grounded.

"This group does not tell you what to decide. It helps you become capable of deciding."

This is both a didactic and process-oriented group — meaning you'll receive frameworks and research, and you'll also have space to actually feel, reflect, and be witnessed in that process by others who understand.

The work draws on the most respected clinical and research traditions in relationship therapy, combined with the power of carefully curated group process.

Participation is confidential. The group is small by design. Screening is required to ensure the right fit for everyone.

What makes this group different:

  • Draws on leading research and clinical frameworks in relationship therapy — without jargon or pressure
  • Balances structured learning with genuine emotional process — you'll think and feel, not just take notes
  • Small group size ensures you are seen and heard, not lost in the crowd
  • Facilitated by a licensed therapist with deep experience in relational ambivalence and life transitions
  • No agenda about the outcome — your clarity is the only goal, whatever that clarity turns out to be
  • Confidential, screened membership means you can speak honestly without fear
Kari Hennigan, PhD

Your Facilitator

Kari Hennigan, PhD

Licensed Clinical Psychologist PSY22065 · San Francisco Bay Area

I've spent over 20 years working with individuals and couples at the most painful crossroads of their relational lives. I know that the stay-or-go question is rarely simple — it lives in the body, in old wounds, in the gap between who we are and who we hoped we'd become together.

I created this group because I kept meeting people who needed more than individual therapy could offer — they needed the particular medicine of being witnessed by others in the same impossible place. Something shifts when you realize you're not alone in this.

My approach is direct, warm, and deeply respectful of your autonomy. I'm not here to tell you what to do. I'm here to help you hear yourself more clearly.

Apply to Join

The next cohort
is forming now.

Space is intentionally limited to 6–8 participants. A brief screening conversation follows your application to ensure this group is the right fit for where you are right now.

Your inquiry is completely confidential. You'll hear back within 48 hours to schedule a brief 15-minute screening conversation — no pressure, no obligation.

Common Questions

What you might
be wondering.

Does my partner need to know I'm joining this group?

No. This is your space, for your own clarity. Many participants attend without their partner's knowledge. What you share with your partner about your participation is entirely your choice.

Will this group push me toward leaving or staying?

Neither. The explicit intention of this group is to support you in reaching your own honest decision — not to advocate for any particular outcome. Both staying and leaving can be healthy choices, depending on the circumstances.

What if I'm already in individual or couples therapy?

This group works well alongside individual therapy. If you're currently in couples therapy, we'll talk during the screening call about how to hold both without interference.

Is this group therapy or a workshop?

It's both — a psychoeducational and process-oriented therapy group. You'll receive frameworks and tools alongside meaningful group process and reflection. It is facilitated by a licensed therapist.

What if my situation involves abuse or safety concerns?

This group is not designed for situations involving domestic violence or active safety concerns. If this is part of your situation, please reach out directly — I can connect you with more appropriate resources and support.

What is the refund policy?

Full refund if you cancel more than 7 days before the first session. Given the small group size and the commitment made by other participants, cancellations after that point are non-refundable. Sliding scale spots are available — ask during your screening call.